When you enter a relationship, whether it’s between friends or between husband and wife, you are only fifty percent committed because you want to see what you’ll get before you give any more than that. Then you give a little more, hoping you’ll get more. People always want more than they are willing to give.
The questions that must be asked in any relationship are: “What are these two people committed to? What is this relationship based on?” Each is committed to what he or she wants, and those wants must be investigated. A ruthless search may show that the desire for the relationship is based on self-gratification or an impossible dream. We can wear many disguises, and it is difficult to be honest—to meet ourselves at the gut level—but we must look ruthlessly at that gut level to see where our commitment truly is. Of course, there are many gradations. Nobody is only selfish or only dreaming. But it is important to know where you are on the scale between true commitment and dreaming, or between commitment and selfishness, because your commitment is influenced by where you are on that scale.
Swami Sivananda Radha
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